Forever Is Not Always Forever

Divorce rates have been steadily rising over the years. The unfortunate break up of a couple is not the only thing that happens after a divorce, divorce can separate a family as well.  Is there an actual factor that is causing this or are the people of this generation just simply falling out of love quicker and easier than our elders? A lot of young couples today get married at an early age when in all reality they are not prepared for a lifelong commitment which is what marriage basically is. Marriage today is not viewed in the same way as it was generations before us. For example most of our grandparents are still happily married to this day, reason being when they got married and said their vows at their ceremony they viewed their holy matrimony as sacred and special. Something that I believe is a very big factor when it comes to divorce rates, and the breakups of couples period is social networking. The generations before us did not have things such as Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, etc. Today, unfortunately when a couple is going through their personal problems, they are not kept so personal anymore. Today, instead of couples talking things out, some tend to go to social networks with their issues and make status and or posts about them. This is when outsiders get involved in a supposed to be private relationship between two people. Letting people outside of your relationship know the problems that is going on in your home, opens the door for more and unnecessary issues and eventually will just make things harder to deal with. Another way social networking breaks up couples is in the name itself, its social and there are other people that couples might network with everyday outside of their relationship. For example one’s spouse might see a conversation between their lover and somebody else on a social network and even though it might not be what it looks life, assumptions are usually made which eventually may lead to an argument and if the problem is not solved in the right way, an breakup or divorce might unfortunately be in the future of that couple. Although couples should not let social networks control or get in the way of their relationship, it is very common that this happens nowadays. Like I stated before, divorce can break up a family as well. For example my parents went through a very long and difficult divorce and I watched how it slowly but surely began to break my family apart especially when it came to the relationship between my father and my little brother. Even though my parents have not been together for a couple of years now, the separation between my family is still there and it is very unfortunate but this is what can happen during the process of a divorce. There are many other contributing factors when it comes to the rising divorce rates but I believe that social networking is a major one. Divorce effects more people than just the two people who are in the relationship but it can permanently or temporarily damage a family. It’s time for society to take back the true meaning of marriage and cherish it with their lives or just don’t get married at all until the time is sincerely right.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/wonkblog/wp/2014/03/27/divorce-is-actually-on-the-rise-and-its-the-baby-boomers-fault/

http://time.com/2917916/kim-stolz-how-social-media-is-ruining-our-relationships/